I feel incredibly sorry to be living in a country where there are strong rumors that anti-LGBTQI+ laws are about to be passed. I don’t think there is a single platform brave enough to stream it, but I’m keeping my fingers crossed. Meanwhile, every cis woman I know has pirated this show in Turkey. Thank you very much for this piece. I’ve become a subscriber.
This is a beautiful piece. Thank you for it. Four Weddings and a Funeral and Persuasion (the book and the 1995 BBC adaptation of the book with Amanda Root and Ciarán HInds), are central comfort art for me. I do "need proof that tenderness still means something to a man," that "compassion exists" in the reality I can't believe we are living. I haven't seen Heated Rivalry, but I agree that there is relief and reassurance when I expect something bad to happen, and it doesn’t. My favorite film last year was Sentimental Value, which sets the viewer up for a number of bad outcomes and then chooses different directions. After reading your piece I realize some of my gratitude to Joachim Trier for his artistic choices come out of my daily dread that yet more ugly things will go wrong, and break my heart more. Sentimental Value gave me just what I hoped for. It's interesting that you mention limerance, which I was reading about a few days ago for a separate reason. I do think we seek it out because it is soul-satisfying and calming, and allows us the delicious push and pull of yearning and love without the drop into daily reality. So lovely. Your piece is like a comfort interlude all its own.
I feel incredibly sorry to be living in a country where there are strong rumors that anti-LGBTQI+ laws are about to be passed. I don’t think there is a single platform brave enough to stream it, but I’m keeping my fingers crossed. Meanwhile, every cis woman I know has pirated this show in Turkey. Thank you very much for this piece. I’ve become a subscriber.
Thank you so much. I love all those pirates!
This is a beautiful piece. Thank you for it. Four Weddings and a Funeral and Persuasion (the book and the 1995 BBC adaptation of the book with Amanda Root and Ciarán HInds), are central comfort art for me. I do "need proof that tenderness still means something to a man," that "compassion exists" in the reality I can't believe we are living. I haven't seen Heated Rivalry, but I agree that there is relief and reassurance when I expect something bad to happen, and it doesn’t. My favorite film last year was Sentimental Value, which sets the viewer up for a number of bad outcomes and then chooses different directions. After reading your piece I realize some of my gratitude to Joachim Trier for his artistic choices come out of my daily dread that yet more ugly things will go wrong, and break my heart more. Sentimental Value gave me just what I hoped for. It's interesting that you mention limerance, which I was reading about a few days ago for a separate reason. I do think we seek it out because it is soul-satisfying and calming, and allows us the delicious push and pull of yearning and love without the drop into daily reality. So lovely. Your piece is like a comfort interlude all its own.
You know I haven’t seen it yet and I’m going to watch it tomorrow. Thank you for the recommendation.
This was beautiful. Yes, to all of this. And thank you!
Delightful. And such fluid writing. Thank you.
Thank you!
And it is what I wish for my children - partnerships filled with love and respect.